PROBLEMS TO CHANGE 2

I am here to help you make the life adjustments in one or a few parts of your life that interfere with living the life you want. Following are examples of the general areas for change clients have presented.

YOUNG ADULT

“My parents want me to support myself but that will mean giving up my mom's cooking for me and doing

my laundry”-“I have no idea what I want to do with

my life”-“I want to get married but then I will have

to give less time to my career if I have kids”

SELF ESTEEM

“I just don't have much faith in myself ”-“I don’t have much to offer people”-“I am shy and worry about being with other people”-“I work hard but just can't seem to get what I want, there must be something wrong with me!”- and so on

OLDER ADOLESCENTS

“My parents don't understand what it is like to be

a kid and have taken my cell phone”-“I do the best

I can in school but that is never good enough”-“I have sex with my boy/girlfriend but think that is all he/she

is really interested in”

LEARNING CHALLENGES-More for some

“I feel stupid even though others say I’m smart” -

“I have no idea what I want to study”-“My parents push

me to get better grades but I can't seem to get organized”-

“I have trouble paying attention in class”-“I don't want anyone to know I am a poor reader”, I can't remember names or facts”-“I need to return to school but don't want to”-“I can't keep up with what the teacher is saying”-

“I want to go to college and be like everyone else-without any help”-“I have difficulty learning in some ares but know

I am smart”-and so on

MEDICAL/MENTAL HEALTH

"I just learned I have...... and am terrified”-”How do

I tell my children about my condition?”-“I am worried

I will get the physical/mental disease that runs in my family”-“My doctor says I need to learn to reduce the stress in my life to get/stay healthier”- “my (spouse)

has cancer”-”My child was born with medical”--“my

child is ADD”-“my (spouse) is mentally ill”-and so on

DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY-can be overwhelming

“I am sad”-“Something is missing in my life”-“Negative thoughts are getting me down”--“Its hard to get out

of bed in the morning”-“I feel left out of what others

are doing”-“my life feels unbalanced”-“I am so worried about what is going to happen that I can’t sleep”-“I feel empty inside”-and so on--

PARENTING

“My children don’t listen”-”My kids are getting into trouble”-“My child has a medical problem”-“My spouse and I argue over parenting”-“How do I get my kids

to study, to do their chores?”-“My child is addicted

to drugs”-“I can’t get my young adult out of the house supporting him/herself”-“My young adult has a mental illness”-”I am getting divorced and worried about the children”-“My spouse is fighting with me over custody of the children”-and so on

RELATIONSHIPS/MARITAL/PREMARITAL

“I have trouble meeting people”-“As soon as I feel

close to someone I find fault with them”-“I have trouble getting along with people”-“I feel so empty, like there is

a big hole that can't be filed”-“I am so sad that my three

year relationship ended that I have no interest in anything”-

“I am afraid of getting serious and being hurt”- “We have

lost touch with each other”-“He/she has cheated on me”- “There is so much bickering”-“He/she tries to controls me”- “I want children and he/she doesn’t”-“He/she doesn’t want sex and avoids touching me”-“He/she doesn’t listen to me”- “He/she always finds fault with me”-“I am going through

a messy divorce”- “My (spouse) wants a divorce and I don’t know what to do”-“My spouse has little interest in my life-

and so on

EMOTIONAL CONTROL-Too much or if we

“I have much to be thankful for but sill get angry

over small things”-“My anger at my......is ruining

our relationship” -“I have been getting angrier lately

and am afraid it will get out of control”-“Why do I feel

so nervous all the time?”-“I feel sad about ....but just can't cry-what is wrong with me?” nothing!)”-“I cry/eat for no reason”-and so on

LIFE STAGES

“I can’t figure out what to do with myself now that the

children are older”-“I just don't know how I will be able

to be on my own”-“I love my partner but know when we

marry that I will have to give up my life to raise children”- “Retirement is scary”-“A family member is critically ill

and I am exhausted caring for them”-“My friend just died

and I have started thinking about my own health”-“My

parents are ill and need me”-“My father is lonely and

I worry about him”-“I feel guilty not wanting to take

care of my aging parent(s)” and so on

EMPLOYMENT

I can’t find a job I like”-“My job is so stressful it is hard to get up to go to work”-“I am too tired from work to

be with my family”- “My boss is nasty, verbally abusive”-

“I am afraid of losing my job”-“My boss says I am argumentative”-“I have been drinking on the job”-“I have trouble getting along with co-workers”- and so on

SOME OF THE CHANGES CLIENTS SEEK TO MAKE

FOR SOME OF MY THOUGHTS ON THE FOLLOWING

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STRESS-RESPONSE REDUCTION

“I am having trouble coping with all the demands placed on me”-“My doctor says that stress is interfering with my ability to mend”-“get so overwhelmed that I can’t think”- “My kids are driving me nuts”-“I am not enjoying life anymore”-“I have trouble breathing”-and so on

SPIRITUALITY

“My life has no meaning for me any more”-“I have left

the religion I grew up with and can’t find a replacement”- ”I have trouble focusing”-“I can’t believe in God anymore after this happened”-“ I am afraid of dying”-“My prayers feel so empty”-and so on

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FAMILY-OF-ORIGIN

“I can’t remember my parents being around much and

now they want to come live with me”-“My brother/sister

was my best friend and now we don’t talk”-”My mom/dad

told me what to think and now I can’t make a decision for myself”- “I get scared, even as an adult,when I am alone with .....”- “Even as an adult I fight with my parents”-

“I just learned that I am adopted”- “I miss my mom/dad

so much”-and so on

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ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOR-Affecting everyone

“My (family member/friend) is a drinker and I don’t

know how to handle it”-“I need to stop eating but

can’t”- -“I am in AA but can’t get with the program”-

“I know I need help, but hate groups”-“My (spouse) has gambled away our savings”-“I think I am addicted to...”

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